The Power of Our Personal Story (Part III)

By Cathy • February 19th, 2012
Our personal stories bring Once Upon a Time into our Personal Life.

Our personal story is our chariot that transports us from a spiritual perspective to a physical perspective

This is Part III of the trilogy of articles on the power of our personal story.  I suggest that you read Parts I and II of this series prior to reading this article.  Here are the links:

Part I:

Part II:

You may have never heard stories described in this way or thought about how stories create beliefs that we need to release.  I acquired this understanding by studying my own personal story (that I discovered in 1997) and the stories of others for the last fifteen years.  I too was surprised by what I learned.

Most of the wisdom that humans have gathered about life came from people who channeled information, mediums, or shaman.  Others became aware of life’s mysteries and shared them in parable form creating popular mythology.  The truth was apparent to the person who received it.  They wanted to share that truth with others to help them.  But the receiver would hear the information through the veil of their false self, and they would misunderstand the information and often use it wrongly.

Truth or wisdom is most valuable when we dig down and find it inside of us.  Otherwise, it is merely knowledge or something that another gives us to store in memory.  Religions and cults have been born out of people acquiring truth through a mystical experience and then putting that truth on top of the false beliefs of their followers.  I describe this as the whipped cream on the manure dessert.  It looks good, but it still tastes like crap.

Once I learned how to discriminate within my own mind, I came to see life from a new perspective.  Ancient myths and stories finally made sense.  They were congruent within and even with other stories of other cultures.  That was my confirmation that I was on the right path.  But I still had a long walk ahead of me.

It became clear to me that sharing what I found to be true with others was not useful to them.  Most of my confusion came from people giving me the truth instead of showing me how to find it.  I knew that I wanted to support people in learning how to think.  I didn’t want to tell them what to think.  And that is what I do on this website constantly urging people to let go of what they believe so they can find that gold underneath.


No one can give you the truth because you never lost it.

It hides below your beliefs, waiting for you to discover it.

Just like we have to dig deep in the earth to find gold, we have to dig deep in our psyche to discover our personal truth.



The Healing Power of Story

As we’ve seen in Parts I and II, our personal story acts as our chariot ride from the spiritual, nonphysical world to the material, three-dimensional world.  You have probably heard enlightened people say, “We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”

Our spiritual perspective is one of unity and oneness.  We are so connected that we can’t distinguish ourselves in a spiritual sense.  Our physical perspective is an outer-focused and sensual perspective.  In the physical realm, we see our separation clearly and often too well.  Both of these perspectives are perfect.  One is not higher or better than the other.  They simply have different purposes.  Ideally, we learn to use the two perspectives in harmony.

I have found many people, like Pat in Part II, who have what I call personal stories.  I suspect that everyone has one, but I can’t say that for sure.  It could be possible that some people share a group story for the purpose of a different experience.  I do know, however, that stories are not meant to be a life sentence of fate or karma.  They create a foundation; and we have control over how that foundation impacts our life.

Our ultimate goal is to experience our separateness in a way that we are free to create our dreams and desires while being harmless and unconditionally loving to each other.  To do that we have to let go of the beliefs that we accepted as true from the stories that we hold in mind.  That causes us to gently bring our spiritual aspect into the material world.  We create heaven on earth.

When we confuse the creative principles of the spiritual world with the laws of the material world, we experience level confusion.  This is where we cause harm to each other.  (For more information on level confusion, see this article:

For the rest of this article, I’m going to presume that we all have a personal story.  What I share would work equally for a group story experience.  In my life, I’ve worked on both levels.  I have a personal story that is unique for me; and I’ve shared many group stories with others.  The challenges are exactly the same.


Acquiring Beliefs

When we arrive in the physical realm, the people in our lives mirror the beliefs that we accepted as true from our personal story.  In part II, I listed a few of the beliefs that Pat held in mind based on her personal story.  Her world then mirrored those beliefs, and they looked very true so she accepted them as true once again.  On top of the beliefs from her personal story, she was given the beliefs and stories of her family, culture, teachers, and religion.

By the time any of us reach adulthood, we’ve accepted thousands of beliefs and a whole lot of stories.  And the real pain and suffering magnifies when the beliefs of others conflict with our own.  Our spiritual Self is one with every other; conflict is painful.

When we find others who believe differently than we do we have met them at the level of the false self.  Our first reaction is often to try to convince them to see things our way.  Likewise, others do that to us.  At best we find a compromise or tolerate our differences.  In the worst case, we end up at war.

We do have another choice.  That choice is never offered by our false self or the people we meet in the false illusory world.  You won’t hear it from political, cultural, or religious groups because it provides the option of personal freedom.  In truth, you won’t even find someone like me who says you have this option until your true Self is strong enough to send you looking for this answer.  People who are have a firm grip on the illusion think I’m crazy.

We can let go of the beliefs we hold in our mind so that our life moves back to perfection.  When we do, our old relationships and groups either stay in our life and find a new place to connect with us, or they leave.  It is the fear of people leaving our lives that often scares people away from this path.  But I can tell you that when people have left my life, I’ve not missed them.  We only lose the relationships that were false.  A false self just can’t connect with a true Self.

I know that in time, everyone will also let go of their beliefs; and we’ll happily reconnect in truth.  No one is ever lost or left behind.  But people get to choose when they want to return to a life of perfection.  We are not bad for choosing to remain in the illusion.  It can be fun for awhile.


Identifying Beliefs

We learned in Parts I and II of this trilogy that personal or group stories provides us with a wealth of beliefs that create our experience in the illusory world.  Our reality seems to prove our beliefs true, making life harder and harder.  Beliefs act like they matter.  They tell us they make us who we are.  But they are really a burden we carry that brings us suffering, disease, and eventual death.  They are a burden that we need to let go if we want to be truly free, but often we are told that we can’t.

This final part of this trilogy explains how to use our personal story (or group story) to get out of the illusion.  Since the story got us in, it is only fitting that it provides the fastest way out.  The whole reason I write and share this information is not because I feel the illusion is bad.  The only truly problematic belief within the illusion is that the only escape is death.  Religions often teach that we can’t have heaven on earth.  We have to die to get our rewards.  None of those beliefs feel good; they just aren’t true.

If people know how to get out of the illusions created by stories when they have had enough, justice has been served.  If people want to play war, they can have great fun killing each other.  If they want to play poverty, have at it.  If they want to pretend to get sick and spend all their money on doctors, they can have that experience too.

For me there is nothing attractive about the illusion so I’ve focused my attention on getting out.  When I found my personal story, I felt no attraction to it.  I knew it was impacting the events in my life.  I just wanted to know how to let it go.  The end result of dropping our stories is what enlightened people describe as “being in the world, but not of it.”


The Anatomy of a Belief

We usually know that an idea is a belief, rather than the truth, because our relationships tell us so.  Beliefs separate us.  They don’t work for everyone.  We think we are right and others are wrong when we are in beliefs.  Or, we feel we are wrong and others are right.  Beliefs are win-lose; they come from a standpoint of competition.  The truth is win-win for everyone.

We also know that we are thinking a belief when we think something and feel emotion along with the thought.  Let’s say we think that we are ugly.  We feel emotion when we think that thought.  The emotion is saying, “Don’t think that, it is not true.”

We also feel emotion when we think something false about another.  Let’s say we think that someone is stupid.  That thought will feel bad.  It is a judgment that is not true.  No one’s true Self is stupid.  We all do stupid things, but those actions don’t make us stupid.  And when we do stupid things, we are not our true Self; we are living from our beliefs, our false self.


Pat’s Personal Story Beliefs

Let’s look at a Pat’s beliefs from her personal story.  I shared her story and many of the beliefs from the story in Part II.  What I’m going to describe is how to eliminate the beliefs (or lies) from Pat’s story.  If I were conducting a session with Pat, this is how I would work with her.

I’d start with the first and biggest belief or the one that first came to mind.  The most noticeable belief for me in Pat’s story was that love was not enough to keep her safe or that fear was more powerful than love.  Her vineyard showed her that she had this belief.  Her body showed her that she had this belief though cancer.  Even her daughter showed her that she had this belief as she often feared that her love was not enough to keep her daughter safe.

As Pat reflects on how that belief has impacted her life, she would feel emotion — probably lots of emotion.  I would guide her to just witness or watch that emotion in her body.  She would probably notice her tendency to run away from the emotion.  Most humans don’t like feeling emotions.  She might feel the urge to drink, eat, watch television, or go jogging.  But running from our emotions is like shooting the messenger.  The emotion is the effect of the thought we are thinking in that moment.  The emotion is only saying, “What you are thinking is only a belief, a lie.  It is not true.  It is not part of your perfect life.  Drop it.  Let it go.”


Facing Our Fears

People get the idea of facing their fears so wrong.  We are meant to face our fears, our emotions, in our mind.  Stupidity is facing our fears in physical reality.  That is where we get into trouble.  If we face our emotions inside of us, they can’t manifest outside of us.  Witnessing our emotions causes them to dissipate.  They lose their power to attract unwanted situations into our life.

We must let our mind and body know that we know our thought or belief is not true until there is no more emotion present.  What causes a belief to leave is when we absolutely know it is false.  Our mind only holds within it what we have accepted as true.  Most beliefs are accepted as true because an authority said so.  When we are small, we believe everyone bigger than us.  And we accept all their beliefs or lies.

I would speak to Pat’s mind.  “Pat does this thought feel good?”  She’d answer, “No.”  Then I’d ask her if it is true, since it doesn’t feel good?”  She’d, of course, tell me “No.”  Then I’d ask her to keep reminding herself of the falseness of her belief until the emotion is gone and her mind is clear.  Often when a belief clears, we have a wonderful insight into that aspect of our life.

Honesty is key.  We can’t run away from our thoughts.  If they show up, they are our thoughts.  So many people say to me, “I just had the thought that I’m not loving, but I don’t believe that.”  I answer, “But you just thought it.”  Sometimes they don’t believe their mind’s statement, but they believe that someone else who believes it might be right or might be more powerful than them.  So they now have something to let go.  They need to let go of believing that the other might be right about them.  Finding our beliefs is not a clear-cut science.  It is more like solving a puzzle.

If another belief arises, Pat continues to do the process with that belief.  I would have her continue until her mind is clear.  Then we would choose the next belief from the story.


Why is This So Hard?

When people try this for the first time, they are shocked at how hard it can be.  They realize that they have been taught that all kinds of things that feel bad are true.  Diseases don’t feel good.  Problems don’t feel good.  Death doesn’t feel good.  War doesn’t feel good.  Politics doesn’t feel good.  The list of beliefs looks daunting.

The ways that our minds hold on to beliefs are as varied as the beliefs themselves.  Often we have been getting a payoff from our beliefs.  Maybe we’ve been financially benefitting from the problems of others.  Maybe we are superior because of our beliefs.  Maybe it has felt good to keep another on the hook.  Maybe we think our beliefs make us spiritual, or they get us in the right group.

Sometimes people say, “God gave me this problem.”  That is a very common belief, but it is not true.  If you get quiet and notice your body as you hear those words, you’ll notice that those words don’t feel good.  You’ll find emotions in your body (nervous agitation).  And that emotion is saying, “Let that belief go; it is not true.”

I can tell you in my years of doing this, it never takes but a question or two to get to religious beliefs.  Phineas Quimby was a powerful healer in the mid 1800’s who said that all disease stems from beliefs in religion or medicine.  And my research has proven his idea to be true.  I’d add government to that as well because big beliefs often come from leaders and their false perspectives of life.

What makes this so damn hard is that religion has made us ashamed to admit what we think.  It has sold beliefs as right to avoid the shame of admitting that they are false.  In truth, we’ve all been lying nearly all the time.  So what is there to be ashamed of?  The greatest gift of love that we can give to ourselves or another is to let go of any belief that has kept us or them stuck in the illusion of beliefs.  There is no reward greater than unconditional love and freedom.

Whatever we did in the illusory world only looks like a dream when we let go.  It is amazing, you suddenly see that there are no victims and perpetrators.  Everyone only gets what they believe.  This one insight alone would solve all the problems of the world.  Because if people knew they were causing their problems by not letting go, they’d learn how to let go really quickly.

I don’t want to simplify things too much.  In my experience, extracting the causal belief can be challenging especially when the rest of the world doesn’t see the cause as false.  The illusion has become a very complex matrix of beliefs.  At times, you feel like you would have to convince the whole world to let go.  But that is not true either.  The emotions can feel like tsunamis.  It is hard to imagine that we can fix a huge problem by cleaning up our own mind.  But I have found that to be true again and again.


How Do We Know What is True?

What arises in our mind is true if it makes us feel joyous, peaceful, light and free.  What is true always works for everyone involved.  What is true always solves the problems at hand.  What is false always feels emotional because it was planted with emotions of fear, anger, jealousy, excitement, or pain.  What is false has a win-lose aura to to.

Beliefs are magnetic in nature.  The more emotion we feel, the bigger the lie.  When we get to those giant collective beliefs, there is lots of emotion surrounding them.

It takes some practice to learn how to let go.  We have been very trained to accept as true anything that has emotion connected to it.  We think something fearful, and we believe it is real.  We think about another’s success and feel jealousy, and we believe it.  We think about something another said or did and label the feeling anger, and we believe it.  This was the trick of the black magicians.  They switched off our natural discrimination and taught us to follow our emotions and to believe them.  And we’ve been stuck in their illusion of life ever since.


The Keys to the Gateway 

The key to continuous movement forward is to avoid looking at reality.  This takes some practice.  We are highly conditioned to pay attention to others and to observe reality and make it true.  We must start observing our minds because that is where the cause is hidden.  Reality is the effect.  If we observe reality, then think about reality, then create more of the same reality, we become stuck in circular reasoning.  

The second key is that we must constantly remind ourselves that letting go can’t ever cause ourselves or anyone else harm.  All harm is caused by holding on to beliefs.  And the joke is that the beliefs tell us that they are helpful or good.  They lie.  Letting go is the greatest gift of true unconditional love.

The third key is that we must understand that the opposite of good is not evil.  It is false.  We are either being our true Self, or we are not.  When we are not our true Self, we are believing lies. We are behaving in a way that serves the illusion.

The fourth key is that discrimination and judgment are not the same thing.  Judgment says I’m good and you’re bad.  It is based in the illusory world of good and evil.  Discrimination occurs in the world of true and false.  People in the illusory world of good and evil often feel exposed or judged when we discriminate.  We have to be conscious so we don’t believe their false self and lose our freedom again.  Proper discrimination puts us in the world of win-win.  It moves us outside of the illusion where we have perfect vision.

The final key is that letting go is not a competition.  It is an individual sport.  We can support others most effectively by letting go of our own beliefs about them.  We literally kill others with our beliefs all the time while telling ourselves we are good people who are serving.


The Benefits

In our world of fast cars and quick cures, this path is not really appealing unless you want freedom more than you want air.  Most seek this path when they realize that nothing they have done has fixed the cause of their problems.

Once you clearly understand the process, you start getting little rewards.  Health issues vanish.  Bad relationships either mend or end.  Life doesn’t seem so hard.  You have less problems.  You have more time to focus on letting go because life doesn’t take so much effort to live.

In time, we start to enjoy being with ourselves.  We find that our mind is a wonderful place to hang out.  We become more creative, resourceful, and our natural power starts to return.  We have incredible insights when we let go.  Judgments disappear and unconditional love fills the space.  As our unconditional love grows in our body, our beliefs leave even more quickly.  Unconditional love is the greatest power in the universe.

We start to have an enlightened mind; and we can begin to pull others out of the illusion with us.   In short, we eventually  return to paradise and realize that we never really left.  It was all a dream.


I hope you’ve enjoyed this series on The Power of Our Personal Story.  If you would like to learn more about letting go of your personal story or beliefs, read the articles under the Freedom of Beliefs (Lies) category.  Or check out my other website, No Labels, No Lies.  There is a free e-book and a link to my free audio course on that site.  It will tell you everything you need to know to start getting free.

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Wow, Cathy. This is the most logical thing I’ve ever read. I loved this trilogy : ) Funny thing is I always thought that excitement meant you were going in the right direction, but I can feel that what you are saying is true. Excitement kind of feels like being anxious now that I think about it. Nothing feels better than being complete calm and clear. Wow, that is really hitting home. Excitement has been a huge defense mechanism for me – still is! I use excitement when I want others to notice me or when I want to convince them of something. Excitement = drama doesn’t it : )

Immensely reassuring that the technique for dropping a belief is so simple, though not necessarily easy. I have some beliefs I’ve known about for decades but I’ve been to scared to tackle them – yes, I thought love was not strong enough. I have a belief that the “dark forces” are stronger than love because that has been my experience. Probably not the first belief I’ll work on letting go, although that would be the most impactful of them all.

I wonder how you get to your story? It reminds me of a technique I learned some years ago about coming up with a metaphor or a scenario for your life, similar to Pat’s story. You could f.x. envision a big city full of pollution, corruption and crime as a metaphor for your life. And then you go in and correct and improve on the parts that are not in harmony – and wait to see your outer reality change.


By gatewaytogold on November 10th, 2012 at 11:18 pm

Thank you Helle. I appreciate your support.


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